What makes you stress?
Stress, anxiety, troubles and you can’t relax? If you are experiencing stress, either because of your work or for a more personal reason, the first step to improving your feeling is to identify the cause.
The most unhelpful thing you can do is resort to something unhealthy to help you overcome the problem, such as smoking or drinking alcohol.
In life, there is always a solution to problems, says Professor Carey Cooper, a professional health expert at Lancaster University. Not controlling the situation and not doing anything about it will only make your problems worse.”
He says that the keys to controlling stress are to build emotional power, to have control of your situation, to have a good social network and to take a positive view of life.
What you can do?
These are the top 10 stress removal techniques given by Professor Cooper:
If you have a stress-related problem, physical activity can put you in the right mood to be able to identify the causes of stress and find a solution. To cope with stress effectively, you need to feel strong and need to feel mentally strong. Exercises can do that.
There is a solution to any problem. If you stay negative, you think: I cannot do anything about my problem, the tension will get worse. This feeling of loss of control is one of the main causes of stress and health.
The act of control itself is powerful and is an essential part of finding a solution that satisfies you and not someone else.
Communicate with people.
The problem you share is half a problem. A good support network made up of colleagues, friends and family can alleviate the hassles of work, and help you see things differently.
If you do not communicate with people, you will not have support when you need help. Our activities with friends can help us relax as we often laugh with them hard, an excellent alternative to stress.
Talking about some things with a friend also helps you find solutions to your problems.
Get special time.
Overtime means that people do not spend enough time doing the things they really enjoy. We all need some time to socialize, relax or exercise, adds Cooper.
It is advisable to neglect things for two days to spend special time away from work. By assigning these two days to yourself, you will not be tempted to do overtime in those days, he says.
Setting your goals and challenges, both at work and outside, such as learning a new language or a new sport, helps build confidence. This will help you deal with stress.
The constant challenge to yourself will be effective and take responsibility for your life, says Professor Cooper.
By continuing to learn, you can become a more emotionally flexible person, because it gives you the knowledge and makes you want to do things instead of being negative, like watching TV all the time.
Avoid unhealthy habits.
Do not rely on alcohol, smoking and caffeine as a way to overcome problems. Men often resort more than women to these things, and we call this evasion behaviour. Women are better than men in getting support from their social circle.
These crutches will not solve your problems in the long term. But will create new problems only. It’s like putting your head in the sand, says Professor Cooper.
It may provide temporary relief but it will not make the problems disappear. You need to address the cause of your stress.
Participate in volunteer work.
Cooper says the evidence shows that people, who help others, through activities such as volunteering or community work, become more flexible.
Helping people who are often worse off will help you put your problems in perspective, says Cooper. The more you give, the more flexibility and happiness you feel.
At a more basic level, you can do something known to someone every day. This can be a little known to help someone cross the road or bring coffee to your colleagues. It does not cost anything to do and will make you feel better.
Work smartly, not stress.
Good organization of time means the quality of work, not quantity. A long working culture is a known cause of work sickness. You have to have a balance between work and life that is right for you, says Professor Cooper.
Working intelligently means prioritizing your business, focusing on tasks that make a real difference to your business. Leave less important tasks for later. Accept that the basket of tasks will always be full, do not expect to be empty at the end of the day.
Look for pros in life, and things you are grateful for owning. At the end of each day write three things that went well or made you feel grateful.
People do not always appreciate what they have. Try to be one of those who sees half the full cup instead of half the empty cup.
This requires a shift in perspective for those who are pessimistic by nature.
It can be done. By making a cognitive effort, you can train yourself to be more positive in life, and the problems are often a matter of perspective. If you change your perspective you may see your situation from a more positive point of view.
Accept things that you can’t change.
Changing a difficult situation is not always possible. If so, you should recognize and accept things as they are and focus on what you can control.
If your company suffers from loss and has to pay workers, you can’t do anything about it. In such a case, you need to focus on things you can control, like looking for a new job.